When it comes to domestic violence, the signs are not always apparent. Abuse is all about trying to not only harm a person physically but is also about controlling their thoughts and emotions as well. Victims of abuse can be afraid and confused and may even be encouraged to hide the abuse. If you’re a California resident, here are some of the indicators of domestic abuse you may want to look out for.
Red flags
If you feel fear or extreme nervousness around your partner or even if someone mentions their name, this may be a huge red flag when it comes to domestic violence. If you feel that you can’t bring up certain subjects or feel afraid that your partner will react violently if you don’t do what they tell you, this could mean that you’re in an unhealthy relationship.
Other indicators of domestic abuse can include constantly being blamed for things you are not guilty of. If your partner bullies you, criticizes you, or blames you when they act violently, these could be signs of abuse.
Control and isolation
Victims of domestic violence are often instructed by their partners on how to dress and behave in public. This is a way to continue to hide the abuse and prevent embarrassing or exposing the abuser. An abusive partner may also threaten to harm you or someone you love if you don’t obey their wishes.
In addition to trying to control their partners, abusers will sometimes cut the victim off from friends and family. When victims don’t have a support system, they may feel trapped, as though they have no one to tell about the abuse.
Looking out for signs of abuse could help you or a loved one avoid potentially dangerous situations in the future.